What are you most self-conscious about?

Welcome friends and visitors,

What are you most self-conscious about? Is it your hair? Is it your body type? Maybe it’s your skin color or how you don’t look like the models on magazines. Before I start, I just want you to know that it’s okay to feel self conscious sometimes, and it’s completely normal.

Anxiety takes a huge part of being self-conscious. You worry all the time and end up having bad thoughts rushing through your head telling you that someone is looking at you and probably doesn’t like what they see. Telling you that there’s something wrong with your outfit or your hair or just something that you already don’t feel comfortable with on your body.

Everybody is different. Everyone is beautiful in their own way. Whether you’re black or white (or any other skin color), thicker or skinny, tall or short. You are your own mind and body. We can’t exactly control how we look when we are born, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t make changes to help you boost your self-confidence.

There are many ways to fix what you don’t like about your appearance. For instance, you could get a hair cut or dye your hair. You could get a new wardrobe if you wanted, or you could make lifestyle changes and change your eating habits if you’re self-conscious about your body type. Nothing is impossible. You can’t just give up on yourself and not like yourself cause you weren’t born perfect. Don’t be afraid to try something new to make you feel better. You should put yourself first and not worry about what everyone thinks about you. Your opinion matters the most. No matter how much you try to change about yourself, nothing will be as beautiful as you.

You guys aren’t alone. There are so many people who can look in the mirror and point out all their flaws. It’s much more easier to see what we don’t have and what we want and think we need than it is to see what we already have.

What am I self-conscious about?

  • My arms
  • My thighs
  • My back
  • My chin
  • My feet
  • My acne

I could go on and on about everything I don’t like about my body, but it’s not going to help me or fix anything if I just sit here and complain about it. It took me a while to realize that. I mean trust me, I complain about it sometimes, but it’s progress. It took me a few friends to help me realize my beauty and all the good things about me.

Don’t worry about what others think. You are beautiful, amazing, and perfect the way you are. If you want to change something about yourself than do it, but make sure it’s worth it and that it will for surely make you happy.



Do you have a problem with your body image or self-esteem?

Welcome friends and visitors,

Do you have a problem with your body image or self esteem? It’s okay to admit that you do….. Nobody’s perfect. I have/had some issues with both of those. I think that I’m not pretty enough for a guy to like me because guys only go for looks now, and same with girls. I feel as if I’m too fat for people too. I know that a lot of us ask ourselves, “Am I not good enough?” also i know that a lot of us ask ourselves “Why can’t I look like a model or like my friends?” I know I do. I ask myself that every day. It used to be so bad that when I stared at myself in the  mirror I would look at all my flaws and just cry and cry, then I would walk out of the bathroom and act as if everything was okay.

I want all teens to realize we are our own type of beautiful, and that we shouldn’t waste our time trying to look like others.That and models don’t just automatically look that beautiful they have to work out and starve themselves to have a nice body and they have other people do their makeup. I’m not saying that we should starve ourselves, but we need to work hard to look the way we want to look. In one of my favorite songs by Alessia  Cara, her lyrics say that “She has dreams to be an envy, so she’s starving
You know, covergirls eat nothing,
She says beauty is pain and there’s beauty in everything
What’s a little bit of hunger?
I could go a little while longer, she fades away.
She don’t see her perfect, she don’t understand she’s worth it,
Or that beauty goes deeper than the surface.
So to all the girls that’s hurting,
let me be your mirror, help you see a little bit clearer.

I would listen to that song every time you’re down or feeling bad about the way you look.  You are good enough. Your are smart. You are beautiful.



What Depression Does to Us…

Welcome friends and visitors,

Depression has gotten to a lot of us or at least some of us. It can be for many reasons as in bullying, family problems, insecurity, break-ups, losing someone you love/like, etc.. Depression really is big because it can lead to people taking their own lives so that they get away from feeling alone and hurt. They feel like they are the only ones feeling this way, they start cutting because they think it helps control the way they feel  deep inside, they start missing school days because they feel that if they show their face again they are going to come home and feel even worse about themselves. It then becomes a daily routine, wake up after having to cry themselves to sleep, looking at a reflection that they can’t stand much more, being afraid that their day is going to get worse, and putting on popular clothing and make up so that they may have a slight chance of fitting in.


Trust me, I know how it feels. To wake up with a broken heart, feeling like crap because you went to sleep that way. Having puffy eyes from crying all night, thinking I’m ugly, worthless, nothing, unneeded, even hopeless. Sometimes I feel as if I have to fake a smile and act like I’m okay. I  know I’m not, but no-one else does. I know I can’t really go to anyone because I can’t trust anyone. I know how it feels to lose someone who you like because it has happened to me many times before and I know it happens to everyone else. You feel like you lost the only one you could trust, the only one you can talk to about pretty much anything, and the only that makes you feel cared about. That is pretty much why I decided to write this blog, because I want people (more directed to teens) to know that they aren’t alone and that someone knows how they feel. I mean, everyone wants to know that because they know most people won’t understand.


To finish this up, I would like to tell you all once again that I’m here for you and that I will try my hardest to make you feel better. I LOVE YOU ALL VERY MUCH!!!!



Is Technology a Huge Distraction To Us Teens?

Welcome friends and visitors,

Is technology a huge distraction to us teens? Personally I think it is because  first of all teens are always on their phones while walking across the cross walks or in busy areas, and second of all we don’t pay much attention to the people around us.

So many teens die from being on their phones while driving, walking across the street, and having no concentration of what they are doing. It’s not only the phones, it can be IPADS, tablets, computers, etc. There are so many pros and cons about this topic. Lets look at thee pros and cons about this topic…


  • Cellphones were originally used to check-in with parents and use it for emergencies.
  • Computers and laptops were originally used for learning, exploring, aid, homework, online schools, home school, music, etc.
  • IPADS or tablets were also a student aid for students to read books and also to use instead of a computer for essays and education.

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  • There has an been an explosion of the use of technology for other things like Instagram, Facebook, Kik, and many others.
  • It seems to come between students, education, and teens having a well-rounded life.
  • Unsupervised can be just as dangerous with cyber bullying, possible predators trolling the internet for teens, and more.’
  • 68% of teens send texts daily


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So lets answer the question, is tech devices distracting teens?



Do you Feel Like you Ruin Everything? Feel Like The Family Black Sheep?

Hello and Welcome Teens & Visitors,


I know how it feels when you think you seem to ruin everything. Trust me, sometimes I feel like my own family thinks that. They make you think that you make all the mistakes in the family and how you always get blamed for things others have done.

Kind of makes you feel like the “Black Sheep” of the family. Do YOU ever feel like this teen friends?

People and our parents can make you feel misunderstood, broken and it can lead to unpleasant choices. Well, it may make you feel like doing bad things because others think you are doing them anyway … One thing we don’t notice is why they make us feel this way, especially parents. They honestly don’t intentionally try to make you feel mistreated and misunderstood. They just want the best for us, as they expect more from us no matter if we are the older or younger the younger child.  If older, they want you to be the example for the younger. If younger, they want you to be better than the older. It’s just how it works with some or maybe even most families.

So don’t get down on yourself, or take this the wrong way, and understand that our parents and grand parents only want the best for us. It may seem like they are just being bossy or mean, they’re not. We may not understand this stuff now, but we will when we are older, as it took me 8 years of my life to notice this and start understanding why adults do this. It can be teachers, our parents or grand parents, or aunts or uncles. They have been through much of what us teens have and will experience. They are trying to guide us in the right direction. But being young, we can feel WE know what is better for us than adults or our parents.

Well I’m here to tell you? Not true. We have NO clue sometimes about life. What we think maybe important now in our teens? It will be way different when we hit 18 or 19 years old. So do me a favor and listen to what I’m sharing with you. I do understand that we sometimes feel like our voice is not heard. We may feel like our parents are being to strict, but they do this because they care. They do this because the don’t want anything bad to happen to us. Really. . . .
And parents? Please, just listen to your teens. They just want to be heard and understood 🙂


I hope you enjoyed my reasons about why you shouldn’t be feeling misunderstood or feeling like you ruin things!
Don’t worry things will get better…   I promise . . .

*Maddi Cakes*



Internet Safety

Welcome friends and visitors,

Today we need to talk about internet safety because people need to be more careful with what they share on the internet. First, a few questions you should ask yourself:

  • Have I ever put my  address on social media as in Email, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter,  Pinetrest, etc…?
  • Have I ever shared my phone number on social media?
  • Have I ever share personal info to people I haven’t met or I even know?
  • Do I believe everything I see on the internet?

You shouldn’t put anything on the internet that gives out personal information because there are creepy and dangerous people out there that can figure out your credit card numbers, phone numbers, your ID, etc. Always make sure your information is kept to yourself. It’s better, safer, and smarter to do.

internat safety

Remember to ask yourself the questions above every post, email, text, etc., so you stay safe.


Are the People You’re Hanging Out With Control Freaks OR Bad Influences?

Welcome friends and visitors,

Have you been hanging out  with the wrong people? That’s a serious question to ask yourself. Here’s another one do they make you do things you know you shouldn’t do? Take a minute and repeat those questions in your head… If you’re having problems understanding that then read the following questions and answer them to yourself.


*Did they ever make you try or drink a beer?

*Did they ever smoke around you or make you smoke once?

*Did they ever try to make you ditch school so you guys could do something that you think is better than your education?

*Did they ever dare you to do something that your  parents wouldn’t allow you to do when your older?

*Do they ever make you do, say, or wear anything that you don’t like?

    All I’m saying  is that you control your own body and nobody has the right to control you other than your parents till you’re the age of 18 and older. If your too scared to speak up, then just walk away. You shouldn’t let somebody control your mind, or make you do something that you don’t have to do, I mean It’s just wrong for somebody to do that. 

I know that sometimes it can be hard to just walk away from people hat have your friend for a while, trust me I know some people who I’ve known since kindergarten that have been that way from then up to now. you’ll regret some things you did, but yet again you’ll feel a little better later and another way (so that you don’t feel bad) to get them to notice this is tell them how you feel it might help you and them out. 

 drinking for blog*If you drink you feel bad after because you know you did the wrong thing.

drugs for blog post *If you do drugs you also know that you’re doing something really wrong.

That’s all I really have to say. Thank you, have a nice night 


Step by Step

Welcome friends and visitors,

We all have to face the hundreds of phases in life which can sometimes suck, but it is always good to take them step by step. I know some teens think that they are old enough to decide their own life before they hit the age of eighteen just because you are eligible to live by yourself or at least can move out of your parents house. Look at what happened to Drew Barrymore, Olivia Wilde, and Demi Moore they all got married younger than 20 years old and their life turned around. Once you take the huge step of getting married or having children there really is no turning back. All of it’s supposed to lead up to something that might come sooner or later.

I will be on vacation for a week!!

I will write more posts when i’m back LOVE YOU ALL and HAVE A NICE DAY!!!!!


The Most Common Problems That Teenagers Have Today

Welcome friends and visitors,

Teenagers face real problems on a daily basis during the most awkward growth stages of their lives; between 13 and 19-years-old. During this time, teens are exposed to some overwhelming external and internal struggles. Teens go through, and are expected to cope with hormonal changes, puberty, social and parental forces, work and school pressures, as well as encountering many conditions and problems. Teens feel overwhelmed when faced with unprecedented stresses concerning school and college choices, and career paths. Those who have absentee parents are exposed to more unfavorable states of life. The issues that teenagers face today vary but these issues can be dealt with easily if parents and other guardians can understand the symptoms of their problems. Parents need to approach their children, who have been suffering from one or more teenage problems, carefully and in a caring and constructive manner to discuss the problem(s). Many teens feel misunderstood. It is vital that their feelings and thoughts are validated and that the validation comes from their parents.

The most common problems that teenagers face today include:

  • Self-Esteem and Body Image
  • Stress
  • Bullying
  • Depression
  • Cyber Addiction
  • Drinking and Smoking
  • Teen Pregnancy
  • Underage Sex
  • Child Abuse
  • Peer-Pressure and Competition
  • Eating Disorders

Teens and DrugsSurprisingly, all of these problems are connected to one another, like a chain reaction. When the teens face self-esteem and body image problems, they can become frustrated, resulting in eating disorders. The teens start feeling stress when they are exposed to peer-pressure and competition at school, or child abuse at home. Many teens take to drinking and smoking in order to relieve the stress. Many may run away from home, play computer games, and start chatting online with strangers. Computer games and online chatting can result in addiction. Many teens feel further stress when they get bullied online. Others may become easy targets of online predators and once treated badly, they turn to more harmful practices. Those who cannot find love at home or support at schools start to build relationships with friends in school or local areas, resulting in unsafe or underage sex, and possible teen pregnancy. Many become addicted to drugs and harm themselves when they cannot get results. Many teens resort to crimes once they feel they cannot get any help or support.

There are many ways to solve these problems by:

  • Making goals to fix your addiction problems
  • having  sessions with a psychologist
  • Taking simple steps
  • telling a grown-up
  • telling someone that you have a lot of trust in

Persuade others to lose the addictions of  these actions or causes.


“Life Isn’t Worth Giving Up On!”

Hello and Welcome Friends, Teens, and Parents,

My good friend named Joy and I were talking the other day, and she suggested to me to write about, how life isn’t worth giving up on no matter the negative things we face.

We all think at times, giving up is the best thing to do when we lose someone/something, or when we do things we seem to regret. For instance, after my  cousin died, my way of coping was I started to lie, act out and steal, and that made my life even worse. It was all because of my anger and bad thoughts about things, and dealing with the grief. I felt a little of suicidal thoughts, thoughts of running away, and so on. Some adults, teenagers, and children think that we aren’t worth anything, and life events, like a death can bring your worth or confidence about yourself very low at times like this. We think after trying many times, that we can do anything positive, and then just give up!

“Obstacles don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.”


For  example, over weight people may give up trying to lose weight because some people make them ashamed of themselves by making fun of them, and they may not know that there maybe a health reason behind why they maybe over weight. Well guess what? I’m overweight for my age and height, and I don’t care! As long as I’m in good health, I am proud of who I am, but that doesn’t mean that I’m not going to try to lose weight. Stop being MEAN to others people just because they may not fit your definition of what YOU think others should look like.

Many teenagers and adults also can give up about being ‘honest,’ because they don’t think that if they tell the truth they will get in huge trouble, or the truth doesn’t sound as good, so they tell a lie. We don’t understand that if we lie about something, anything, and lie about lying,  eventually it catch’s up to you and they will get in even more trouble. I’m not saying that all people don’t understand that concept, but people just don’t realize it.
My message to you is that TELL THE TRUTH.
“Honesty is always the best Policy” . . . And a lot less stressful!

We all have dreams and sometimes they work out, and sometimes they don’t.
That doesn’t mean you have to give up on them. We may need to make different ones, because the others didn’t work out.  But always have a ‘Dream.’ Dreams can change as you grow older, but that is only because we are getting more mature. So your priorities in life change. So then adjust your dreams, “Never Give Up On Them!” .  .  .

Your never too ‘Old or to Young’ to try again! Because it doesn’t matter what you look like, it doesn’t matter what you wear, or either how you talk!